Shape up or ship out. That’s what my mother used to say to me as a child when I was misbehaving. Then she would laugh and laugh, and soon we would both be laughing together. She meant every word of it … well almost every word. I, of course, knew she wouldn’t have thrown me out of the family if I didn’t shape up. I never realized what a powerful message these words carried for me. She was telling me where the boundary was and guiding me to shape my behavior in a direction that works for the whole, so I could most successfully be a part of the family. Her use of humor helped the corrective medicine of shaping go down more smoothly. She was such a great mother and still is. So much of her nurturing greatness rests on her use of shaping.
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